l) It’s not your fault. Most stalkers have a personality disorder or mental illness, or both. They may be stalking you because you’ve ended, or are trying to end, a relationship just like the main character in my new novel, Rusty Springs.
They feel wounded. You’ve insulted them and they are seeking revenge.
2) Or, a stalker may be a complete stranger and has picked you at random. They have low self-esteem but feel they are the most important person in the world.
3)Half of stalking victims never report it. Keep evidence because it may become a more serious crime.
4) Never meet a stalker to say goodbye or to have things returned. Some things, such as sending the police to give them a warning or obtaining restraining order, may do more harm than good.
5) Two types of stalkers most likely to assault their victims are the predator who plans their attacks, rehearses them and has sexual fantasies about it, or the stalker who has been rejected.
6) If you believe you are being stalked (as statistics show one out of every twenty women will be), keep evidence and document the stalker’s actions, much as the character in Rusty Springs does in her journal.
7) Make SAFETY a habit: Park in well-lit areas. Vary driving and other routines. Iimprove home security. Don’t give out or print your home address and phone number.
8) If approached in your car, keep the doors locked and drive to the police station. A stalker can fake an unmarked police car. Call 677 on your cell phone. that’s the number to a police dispatcher who can verify if the car that’s stopped you is authentic.
9) If you suspect a stalker, tell trusted friends and neighbors so that they can also be on the lookout for anyone or anything suspicious around your house or work place.
l0) Take a personal defense safety class. Do not be a person who to has to rely upon someone else to come to their defense.